Brooklyn (the film) - adventure is something, and nothing.

I haven’t written about a film, or a play, or a book in ages cos YA BOO it’s all been about me. Aaaaagh boys, or aaaaah work is going too well, or WOAH I got a tattoo (did anyone else ever get a tattoo?)

Obviously priority blogs in the wings are still ‘that thing he said on tinder’ or ‘god I need to delete tinder’ but for now, here’s a little culture ponder.

Brooklyn had a really shit poster so I didn't go see it when it came out. I was wrong not to - it’s a beautiful piece of storytelling. Following Ellis Lacey (the irrefutable Saoirse Ronan) moving to New York from a tiny town in South East Ireland. Now (2010’s) the town has a population of 10,000, then, less. So it’s small. The whole place is painted as a petri dish of gossip and power play – like the day after the office party every day of the year.

The magic of this film is its subtlety and warmth. Ellis has been sponsored to move to New York as her sister recognizes she's set for bigger things and applies for her sponsorship. There is never any shoehorned narrative where she is shown as ‘being clever’ – it’s just a fact. So often when female characters are placed at the centre of a narrative, any intelligence, wit, awareness are blasted at the viewer – not here. She can just be.

To see a female character presented like this means two things to me. One, we can watch women boss it and own screen time apropos of nothing. And two, the lack of aggression in the film towards her failing means we’re now allowed to watch multifaceted women on screen and nominate them for Oscars. By lack of aggression, I refer to her stern manager at her department store in Brooklyn allowing her to take a break when her homesickness is rendering her incapable to work; her sponsor (YAY JIM BROADBENT) signing her up for book keeping classes without a hint of drama at the fact she will be the only woman in the class.

The dilemma and reality of having two homes – one’s heart in two places is explored. She is a natural happy fit for Brooklyn – but the town she was born in now feels available to her as she can see it for what it is. It does help that she spends a fair bit of time with Domhnall Gleeson, hubba hubba, when she’s back at home. We all would. KIDDING. Not kidding.

I have always said home is where I am. I'm a home whore. I could go back to Bristol now and I still get tingles when I walk past places that my wee self spent time in. I could go to Birkenhead (it’s been a while) and I’m sure I’ll get a rush of nostalgia, and things will feel familiar, I could go back to Kent and roll my eyes at the skinny side-eye and awful hair but I know I would be in good company. I could go to Adelaide and walk in the front door of the Porter St Mansion and know I’m home. The thing is, we choose where we want to be, who we want to be with. To watch a girl in the 50s owning that – suffer the loneliness, fear and then look forward is inspiring to me. Watching her endure the earth shattering physical pain of being separated from the people she loves, makes me feel like we should all be a little less scared of what adventure means – and all without getting on a massive boat for weeks and weeks cos we prefer burning dem fossil fuels up high in the sky.

My first tattoo and the house of mirrors...

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This week I got my first tattoo. Infact my wrist is a little sore as I type; she’s about 24 hours old now.

Here’s the thing. It’s difficult daily to own your own body and compete. Being a woman and getting it right is more complicated than a genius Sudoku. Tick this box, don’t touch that box, look this way, oooooh you doin’ that guuurrrl?

The new dating lexicon we’re speaking – you can swipe and destroy or dance round someone you quite like for fear of making the wrong call in front of your peers. We judge constantly. It’s tough. It’s like being stuck in a house of mirrors – how are we ever supposed to know what’s real? It’s bloody exhausting.

I met my tattooist for a drink and we talked about what I wanted. He doesn’t do many first timers – but we hit it off. I also, had this feeling, which I struggle with in new interactions, of not having to be a yes person. When he suggested something I didn’t like – I went for an alternative, when I had an idea he didn’t like – same. We collaborated.

He slotted me in for the following morning – and as I sat talking about 90s indie music surrounded by drawings, patterns and ideas for other people’s tattoos it felt right. I had less anxiety than when I last had to choose between sandwich and salad.

We struggle constantly with how to be in the world. From an ignored text, or a missed date, or the insanity of getting assaulted in the street by a stranger. Exhausted by our family’s ideas for us, tired by the constant darkness in the news, worried about how we change things. We only own one thing – our bodies.

As a new friend, hours earlier a perfect stranger marked my skin permanently with black ink, and listened to me chatting away without judgment, I knew this was one step for me to own my own body. Cos it’s with this body I’m going to make changes for others and achieve everything I feel I need to – so I choose what goes into it, what goes on it – even if I can’t control what other people think of it. 

reads like a four.... #freshink #firstink #tattoo #newtattoo #shizzle #tatts #firsttime #adelaide #australia #happybunny

A photo posted by Miriam (@strawberryplantlive) on Mar 4, 2016 at 6:44pm PST